I know a lot of people think Michelle Duggar is a tad over the top by having baby number 20 at age 45. But, as an older mother of only 5 children, I have to say I stand in awe. I, too, had an infant when I was 45. I gained 35 pounds with him, and he was adopted. After the first week, I crawled out of the house and bought the book, What to Expect the First Year. I was in peri-menopause and couldn’t remember what I was supposed to expect. The book said, “Should be able to hold head up by week three.” Uh…no. I couldn’t do that until he was six weeks, and even then I needed help. At week five, it stated, “Should be able to focus on, and pick up a raisin.” Still working on that one, and it’s been 8 years, although I have mastered mini-Snickers.
After he was born, I decided to skip the whole infant thing altogether with my next bundles of joy, figuring I’d just go out and get a couple of darlings that were already able to fix their own breakfast, so we adopted through foster care. Michelle, seriously, give it a shot. It’s super rewarding and much easier on the body.
I look at Michelle and Jim Bob’s family and wish I had heard of them back when I was first starting my family. First of all, they name all their kids with names beginning with the letter “J”. As an older mom, I think this is brilliant. I can’t even remember my name on most days so when my little darling holds up a drawing of a blob, I can boldly say, “Why J.J.! That’s an amazing…thing you drew there!” Secondly, from experience, I can tell you that simply getting my hair combed on any given soccer or piano day is a major accomplishment and Michelle looks awesome. If I’d birthed 20 kids, I’d look like Jaba the Hut’s ugly step-sister. Thirdly, the fact that she has any kind of libido left at all is a testament to her supreme dedication to grow her family.
Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar take a lot of flack for raising and taking care of and an interest in every single one of their beautiful children. I know a lot of parents who only have one kid who couldn’t tell you where they were or what they have written on their Facebook pages. Would I recommend giving birth to 20 children? Heck no! But would I want to be a part of their family? I’m waiting for them to discover adoption. And, when they do, I want to be first in line.